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- JamilaLighthouse
- i have always been fascinated by the mysteries and ambiguities of life, now as a Muslim i have a way of naming the unknown areas, as a mother i am learning how to give to my kids without losing what it is that I have to give!
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Articles of Interest
- AL-GHAZALI, ABU HAMID (1058 by Kojiro Nakamura
- Are Non-Islamic Religions Valid?
- Ibn Taymiyyah on "Futuh Al-Ghayb"and Sufism-G Fouad Haddad
- Islamic Feminism-What's in a name?
- links to info about islamic Art, Music and Architecture around the World.
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- The Probativeness of the Sunna
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- Grief is not skin deep
- On Neurons and Transmitters
- For as far as you can see...
- Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
- On Hysteria and Stubborn Manliness
- The Power of Visual Media
- Complacency and Shooting our Sisters in the Back
- Question?
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7 comments:
I noticed your comment somewhere in the sphere about having a mentally ill mum and wanted to come by and say "me too". I can't read the post today. Too much. Inshallah later...if it's still here, haha!
I'ld like to make you some soup, maybe some day, inshallah.
Asalamu Walaikum
Wa alaykoum Salam dear Ummbadier and PM,
ha ha ummbadier, yes it's still here but i was tempted in the night to get up and delete it! Thanks for the cybersoup! We have similarities in our lives don't we, art school and now our Mum's illnesses. My mum is pretty stable now, alhamdulillah but it was very hard for many years. I hope things are ok for your Mum.
PM, I think we all have been blessed with a survival instinct, what else can we do? Yes, I remember you talking about your depression. InshaAllah, things are better for you now. It's a blessing in a way I think, because when you have felt really desperate, you realise how helpless we are without Allahs mercy. I believe this is how He brought me to Islam. Had I had that "wonderfully boring life" i may not have thought about God or why we exist, what we are...or at least not with any depth.
Every ones situation is different. Perhaps some women really don't give a damn about hurting another woman and destroying her family but to tarnish us all with the same brush is unfair and happens to often I feel. It's very simplistic, but then having a scapegoat is part of the healing process for some people. So in that sense i don't mind being it, if it helps. love you too.
Salams lovely Suroor, I know i'm not ill! But it took me years to get over the fear that the same thing might happen to me, hence my preoccupation with my moods during pregnancy, i analyse myself far too much.
don't worry, i don't take offense at you being critical of my husband. He didn't look for another wife though, i came into his life. I think though that regardless of how we all see things and who's to blame, we are here now and we have to focus on the future.
suroor, when i refer to being scared the same thing might happen to me, I mean my mum's illness, not that my husb will marry again!
I had a BF whose father was Szchizo (sp?) and she was always on edge worried about WHEN it would appear in her. She still is a mess.
Umm Badier, i've talked to many doctors about this heredity thing, they have all said that, yes we may have a genetic pre-disposition to mental illness but that there has to be a trigger for it to occur i.e. something very stressful or some kind of major trauma. I've 99! stopped worrying now, I just watch myself if I get down eg.during pregnancy etc. because another thing is catching it at the beginning if you do get sick. InshaAllah we wont be affected by these things.
Salams Sumera!
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